Oh My God, What Can I Do

I am a Christian, trying to get close to God and do His will. I pray always and study my bible; I am getting to love Christ and my hope is building on Him. My pastor says I have to live holy. He says I can be rich but I should not get my wealth through sinful ways.


Well I like all the preaching and all about giving my life to God but I have only one problem. In fact I feel sometimes as if the pastor is talking to me when he preaches or the bible is referring to me as I read it, even though I’ve never told anyone what I am going through. The problem I have is that my spouse is not a believer like me. He / She does not come to church with me, and still engages in sins here and there. I have always thought everything is supposed to be perfect. What do I do?


Is this your story? Many people feel this way and have this nagging question in their minds all the time. Well I congratulate you for coming across this write-up today because Jesus has an answer for you. Straight to the point, the answer is in Colossians 4:5-6. The answer is “SEASON IT” The passage says, “Walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time. Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” KJV. This means you should “live wisely among those who are not Christians, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone.” NLT.


My friend, SEASON IT! Season what? Season your relationship with husband, wife, boss, parents, etc. With what? With the wisdom of God in conduct and grace in speech. When the bible says in verse 5 that we should walk in wisdom toward them that are without, the unbeliever is the one referred to as “without”. That husband, wife, friend, parent, boss is without. That is, they are yet to be in the fold of Christ as you are.


The bible says you have to deal with them with wisdom and season your talk and your relationship with them with salt. The Lord cares about your relationship. He does not want misunderstanding in your relationship. God does not enjoy your fighting, crying and troubles. That’s why He advises you to add wisdom to the way you talk to your spouse. This wisdom and love is the seasoning salt.


When Paul discusses relationship in Ephesians 5, he says, “Look carefully how you walk…” in your relationship. Observe the “walk and don’t walk” signs of a relationship at all time. Proceed with caution, understanding and love. The word of God is the traffic light that tells you when to walk and when not to. What I am saying is that simply because you are a Christian and your spouse is not, or they are yet to be as strong and committed as you, does not permit your to treat them like trash or second class people. Do not say, “well the says you are going to die and go to hell.” “You don’t bring enough money home.” “You are so terrible and sinful I don’t even want to deal with you.” “You can’t come near me.” All such talks will not bring peace to your relationship. You are already in this; you need to find ways of easing the tension. Use love and kindness to deal with your better half or that very turf person.


Speak the truth to them in love. Ephesians 4:15 say, we should speak the truth in love and this will help as to grow into Christ in all things. Talk to you spouse with wisdom, honor and respect. In fact, through your kindness and love, they will begin to treat you right and who knows, God might bring them to the knowledge of Christ through your attitude (the salt in you relationship).


**Know how to present every situation before them with absolute and unreserved love.

**Season your relationship with a walk and talk that will surprise your spouse and change his / her life to accept the Jesus that you know.


**Give them unconditional love, through which God might minister to them.


**Communicate with them fully – tell them where you are going to be – at school, church, work, wherever. Communication, based on God’s words, is the key to a successful marriage.


Your conduct is the bible that they are reading. If your attitude won’t change them, nothing will.


Open your bible and learn of the seasoning ingredients that will make your relationship sweet:

• Colossians 3:18-19 Obey the necessary rules of good relationship
• Mark 9:50 Have salt in your relationship
• Proverb 15:1 Always give soft answers
• Ephesians 4:31-32 Have tender heartedness and a forgiving spirit
• James 5:16 Pray always for him / her
• 1Peter 3:15 Use gentleness and reverence

Suggest ways you can help them, tell them you pray for them, tell them you love them and tell them that Christ is good.


Fellow Christian, I pray that the Lord will give you grace to season your rough relationship with God’s salt of wisdom and gentleness.

Is the relationship not as sweet as you intended? SEASON IT! That’s God’s advice form above.